With too much -none use she might assume that all he wants is sex. If she is not after a booty call type relationship and wants to build something long term then she might sometimes be turned off by this vibe and the end result might be that she may feel disconnected with him and feel that her needs are not being met and that he is only with her for sex. She may not want to have sex with him as often.
-none in a relationship can be useful for the kind of guys who are too laid back to initiate sex and their significant other feels unwanted. This is often also based on the length of the relationship as initial passion seems to fade and the same old thing doesn't seem as exciting anymore. But with guys that are the initiating type it can actually be counter-productive (see above paragraph).
Why do guys wear -none in a relationship?
They hope that the women will find them attractive and exciting and want to have sex with them more often, unfortunately not realizing the above pitfalls.
When a woman is looking for a one-night stand the extra -none and some connection might be all that is needed to get her in bed with you. But when she is in a relationship she wants more than that to really want to have sex with you.
As a guy it can be very frustrating. You might feel that you do so much in a relationship, you are faithful, take care of her needs, take her out, spend money on her, listen to her when she is down, offer support, be nice to her friends and she keeps telling you that how you are such a great boyfriend but when you approach her for sex she doesn't want it. But the same night she could meet an attractive stranger and have sex with him without that guy going through any of these hoops that you have to jump through.
Don't assume that she is not a sexual person, she could be a very sexual person and may have actually found you attractive in the past.
I think the basic explanation for this behavior is that people want what they can't have. If you make something seem too easy it's not as desirable. Let's face it, as a guy it's very hard to lay next to an attractive girl in your bed and not show that you want to have sex with her. Man's arousal is harder to conceal and even if you are able to conceal your arousal, your expression, your eyes or your actions reveal the truth as she will be very much in-tune by this point to those signs indicating your arousal. And when she sees that you want her more than she wants you her desire for sex with you wanes.
Another possible reason is that you are probably not as good in bed. Sex is monotonous and lacks novelty.
Also, you probably make the mistake of thinking that honesty, intimacy and openness may be all that the women desire in a relationship to want to have sex. It's undeniable that those are important components of a relationship but it's also quite possible that you are physically not as attractive, muscular or manly that can really rev her gears and make her desire you on a purely physical level. This is a really no-win situtation unless you physically match her idea of an attractive man, even worse if she has had such lovers in the past as she will then have a reference point for hot sex with attractive guys and you are not it.
This happens because many women get into relationships with a guy even if they don't match their ideal physique but probably have a personality and lifestyle attractive to them. They only later find themselves unable to be enthusiastic for sex with this less than physically attractive person.
Women will continue to want to desire different things from guys they want to just have sex with and guys they want to build relationships with. There is usually quite a bit of disconnect between these qualities and hence for most average women they can't find all of these qualities in one man.
-none in a relationship can be useful for the kind of guys who are too laid back to initiate sex and their significant other feels unwanted. This is often also based on the length of the relationship as initial passion seems to fade and the same old thing doesn't seem as exciting anymore. But with guys that are the initiating type it can actually be counter-productive (see above paragraph).
Why do guys wear -none in a relationship?
They hope that the women will find them attractive and exciting and want to have sex with them more often, unfortunately not realizing the above pitfalls.
When a woman is looking for a one-night stand the extra -none and some connection might be all that is needed to get her in bed with you. But when she is in a relationship she wants more than that to really want to have sex with you.
As a guy it can be very frustrating. You might feel that you do so much in a relationship, you are faithful, take care of her needs, take her out, spend money on her, listen to her when she is down, offer support, be nice to her friends and she keeps telling you that how you are such a great boyfriend but when you approach her for sex she doesn't want it. But the same night she could meet an attractive stranger and have sex with him without that guy going through any of these hoops that you have to jump through.
Don't assume that she is not a sexual person, she could be a very sexual person and may have actually found you attractive in the past.
I think the basic explanation for this behavior is that people want what they can't have. If you make something seem too easy it's not as desirable. Let's face it, as a guy it's very hard to lay next to an attractive girl in your bed and not show that you want to have sex with her. Man's arousal is harder to conceal and even if you are able to conceal your arousal, your expression, your eyes or your actions reveal the truth as she will be very much in-tune by this point to those signs indicating your arousal. And when she sees that you want her more than she wants you her desire for sex with you wanes.
Another possible reason is that you are probably not as good in bed. Sex is monotonous and lacks novelty.
Also, you probably make the mistake of thinking that honesty, intimacy and openness may be all that the women desire in a relationship to want to have sex. It's undeniable that those are important components of a relationship but it's also quite possible that you are physically not as attractive, muscular or manly that can really rev her gears and make her desire you on a purely physical level. This is a really no-win situtation unless you physically match her idea of an attractive man, even worse if she has had such lovers in the past as she will then have a reference point for hot sex with attractive guys and you are not it.
This happens because many women get into relationships with a guy even if they don't match their ideal physique but probably have a personality and lifestyle attractive to them. They only later find themselves unable to be enthusiastic for sex with this less than physically attractive person.
Women will continue to want to desire different things from guys they want to just have sex with and guys they want to build relationships with. There is usually quite a bit of disconnect between these qualities and hence for most average women they can't find all of these qualities in one man.
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