If you are approachable in other ways (how you dress, talk, etc.), here's guidelines on how to amplify: 1 to 5 sprays Instant Female Magic to the back of the neck and top of hands 1 to 3 sprays Instant Openness to hair on head 1 to 3 sprays Instant Shine A good starter mix might be: 3 Openness, 3 Shine, 1 Instant Female Magic 3 Openness to Shine w/o Instant Female Magic is good, too. If you want to keep approachability high, make sure you always use Instant Female Magic with Turn Up The Heat or Ammo. Otherwise, the onus is usually on you. Generally speaking, you will have far more luck doing the approaches yourself. Women like men to approach. Our genetic nature tends to agree. For the most part, women give you approach invitations (with IOIs, flirting, etc.), and then you take those invitations and approach. Pheromones will go a lot further with some "game".