Speak well, in complete sentences, with the vocabulary an educated person would use,
have good manners,
know how to use silverware and conduct yourself like an adult at the table, chew with your mouth closed,
abjure profanity, what sounds superficially impressive on a rap album makes the typical guy sound like a pathetic idiot in real social situations,
expand your horizons, read more, see more different types of movies,
check out more musical styles,
converse with more people and hear their stories,
be broader and deeper than the pack,
don't hang out with losers because you'll unconsciously sink to their level, better not to have any friends than to have assholes for friends who drag you down,
learn to handle some social isolation while you sharpen your game,
don't think you have to agree with everybody,
don't think you have to disagree with everybody,
know the difference between an opinion and a considered opinion, get comfortable with being uncomfortable, intellectually, socially, psychologically....
here's the great lesson of attraction I learned along the way,
women are attracted to courage, real courage, not *attitude*, not *bravado*, not pissy little pretensions of superiority, courage,
like the courage not to take the easy way out,
the courage to do what is right,
the courage to accept some emotional wounds without turning into a vindictive shit about it... when women sense you can handle reality, that rejection won't make you get all evil and childish,
that you know your real worth and you understand your real limitations, and that you can accept their real limitations,
that you aren't looking for artificial perfection to make up for a perceived lack of adequacy,
then they'll open up to you and show you who they are, which is a hell of a lot deeper, more human, more real, more significant in terms of your true existence than any head games you can ever contemplate.
have good manners,
know how to use silverware and conduct yourself like an adult at the table, chew with your mouth closed,
abjure profanity, what sounds superficially impressive on a rap album makes the typical guy sound like a pathetic idiot in real social situations,
expand your horizons, read more, see more different types of movies,
check out more musical styles,
converse with more people and hear their stories,
be broader and deeper than the pack,
don't hang out with losers because you'll unconsciously sink to their level, better not to have any friends than to have assholes for friends who drag you down,
learn to handle some social isolation while you sharpen your game,
don't think you have to agree with everybody,
don't think you have to disagree with everybody,
know the difference between an opinion and a considered opinion, get comfortable with being uncomfortable, intellectually, socially, psychologically....
here's the great lesson of attraction I learned along the way,
women are attracted to courage, real courage, not *attitude*, not *bravado*, not pissy little pretensions of superiority, courage,
like the courage not to take the easy way out,
the courage to do what is right,
the courage to accept some emotional wounds without turning into a vindictive shit about it... when women sense you can handle reality, that rejection won't make you get all evil and childish,
that you know your real worth and you understand your real limitations, and that you can accept their real limitations,
that you aren't looking for artificial perfection to make up for a perceived lack of adequacy,
then they'll open up to you and show you who they are, which is a hell of a lot deeper, more human, more real, more significant in terms of your true existence than any head games you can ever contemplate.
Comments
Post a Comment